It is natural for parents to want to protect their children, keep them from harm. But in
Are you accidentally robbing your child’s chances for success?
doing so are we depriving them of essential skills they will need as adults?
Consider this…in life you must face adversity. There are confrontations, negotiations, people who would attempt to deceive or defraud you and those who would physically harm you. If you have been sheltered as a child and adolescent, you will be unable to recognize and effectively deal with these inevitable situations. So I suggest to you, as parents, don’t insulate your child from these learning experiences. Instead, stand beside them and offer support and guidance where appropriate, but let them figure out how to deal with challenges. You will be guiding them toward success instead of cheating them out of valuable life lessons.
For one to be free they must be independent. This means being responsible for ones own well-being. Freedom is the ability to make your own choices, but also includes owning the results. Many people have an lopsided concept of freedom and want to be able to do whatever they desire without consequences. This is not reality, but is a popular attitude in today’s society.
Freedom involves thinking independently. This means taking all the available data and using it to form opinions. If you exclude facts that don’t necessarily agree with your preconceived notions then you are cheating yourself and increasing the risk that you will make good decisions. For instance, if you choose to ride a motorcycle without wearing a helmet, you know you are taking a greater risk of head injury or death in the event of an accident. The choice is yours. The expense of medical care should be yours as well if you get hurt. Continue reading
Many years ago my mother told me a story about a child walking along a woodland path. This sweet child came upon a butterfly struggling to break free of its cocoon. The youngster was fascinated and stopped to watch the insect. The emerging butterfly seemed to be in a life and death battle to free itself from the silken shell that had concealed the metamorphosis from caterpillar to winged beauty. Concern overcame the child and so she made the decision to help this creature free itself…but much to the dismay of the young girl the very act of helping had sealed the fate of the butterfly. You see, it is the struggle that gives the insect the strength to fly. The butterfly was unwittingly killed with kindness. Continue reading